Dear newly married wife,
Pull your chair closer, because I want to remind you of something very important today…
Drum rolls…
Your husband waited to have sex with you!
Well, maybe he didn’t, but at least he looked forward to when he would have sex without the guilt that comes from fornication! (Yes, I said what I said. Tell the truth, sex outside marriage does not feel the same. But, that is not my focus today.)
Please, pull your chair closer, let me focus on my focus for this post.

This man waited. He endured. As in survived all the “good night baby” hugs, the “let’s watch just one more movie” marathons, and those your tight church-side hugs that tested even the strongest soldier of Christ.
So, now that you are legally married?
My sister, I have to tell you, the man is EXPECTING.
He didn’t go through spiritual warfare, accountability partners, midnight cold showers, and “flee youthful lusts” sermons for nothing. He is now waiting for that settlement the bible talks about, “after you have suffered a while’’

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you”

Please, don’t suddenly turn to his auntie, mum or worst of all, his sister! Breaking news. You are none of those.
Don’t start forming “I am tired,” “I am thinking,” or “I don’t feel like,” every time the man comes near you with that suspicious husband smile.
Marriage is not only for cooking stew, keeping the bathroom spick and span and replacing his ugly throw pillows with pristine coloured ones!
There is ministry work to do.
Kingdom service.
Full-time assignment.

Sisturrr, I am not talking about evangelism up and down your block. I mean ministry inside your bedroom!
And guess what?
Your body is no longer a prayer point, it is now the answer to prayer. His prayer.
You are now the “helper fit for him”… FIT, my sister. Not “scarce,” not “rationed,” not “pending approval” and certainly not, ‘’keep in view’’

I understand you are adjusting. Life is bringing so many things you need to adjust to your way. Work, housekeeping, ‘adulting’. The whole 9 yards and you are still learning your rhythm.
But also… remember the dear man waited. (or not, but at least he waited to not feel guilty).
So honour him.
Enjoy him.
And, ahem ahem, allow him enjoy you. Every crevice, every secret part, that part ‘’you don’t like people touching because it is your sensitive area’’. Girl, allow him be sensitive with you in that area. Explore the sensitivity together. Maybe years of keeping it together have kept you from realising that is your G-spot! Allow him.
Laugh with him.
Grow with him.
And please, show up for the marriage you prayed for.
Ask yourself often, ‘’am I showing up for everyone else but my husband – work, church, business, children, but not him?”
Because, girl, truly, he waited…
And waiting deserves a joyful reward. Go give him joy!